Why Marriages Fail
Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others.They are:
- Poor communication
- Financial problems
- A lack of commitment to the marriage
- A dramatic change in priorities
- Infidelity
There are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above .They are:
- Failed expectations or unmet needs
- Addictions and substance abuse
- Physical, sexual or emotional abuse
- Lack of conflict resolution skills
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Unrealistic expectations?? That describes half the women I’ve ever met. It’s funny, you see and hear it all the time from women. They’re disappointed in their man: “he’s boring” or “he’s a workaholic”, “he doesn’t give me enough attention”, “he’s not meeting my needs”, etc…I can think of numerous women who go from man to man, with the same complaints. Then, a few years down the road, they realize the clock is ticking, and they settle with whatever loser they are with at the time. Quite often, the guys they dumped along the way had more going for them then the guy they settle down with. Then they either get divorced somewhere down the road and turn even more bitter, or stay in the relationship and make the poor guy miserable. Where do these chicks get these unrealistic images of men? We have to be sensitive, caring, and give them unlimited attention, but yet still go out and make an impressive living, be well rounded and mutli-dimensional. We can’t be boring, but they give us grief if we spend time with our friends or have outside interests and hobbies. Can’t win. They’re looking for the guy in the romance novel, the chick flick, or the magazine article, but he doesn’t really exist. Not all men are perfect, but most of us try to make them happy, and it can be a pretty frustrating experience. Anyway, I like this blog, it’s about time somebody put up a space to represent us men. Quite often, we’re not the evil ones!
Women say a marriage ended because they did not get enough communication, love ,money, friendship, warmth, compatibility. Bullshit it ended because they want to have complete control over every aspect of the marriage. They want to control the children, finances, sex, house, friends, dog, cat and anything else you can think of. They wear you down until you give into to their ridiculous demands. However once they are given the reigns, the drivers seat, the checkbook the very thing thay have nagged you to death about, it all expoded in their faces because thay have no managerial abilities whatsoever. If women would just leave their husbands alone and let them take care of the important things marriages would work out fine.
You go, ragin Joe. You sound like you’ve met MY wife. Guess it’s the same everywhere.