Having been on this planet a few years, I have made a few discoveries in the ?art? of meeting women I hope to share a few of these discoveries and lessons here with you now
Having been on this planet a few years, I have made a few discoveries in the ?art? of meeting women. I hope to share a few of these discoveries and lessons here with you now. Keep in mind that while I was growing up, I did not have the resources that you all have now, so all of this was learned by trial and error (many errors!).
What do you want?
First, decide what it is you are looking for. A one night stand? A couch buddy to watch movies with? A long term relationship? Or something in between maybe? What you decide at this point will determine where and what you do to meet the woman you are looking for. For example — you would probably go to a bar to meet that one night stand. If you like art, you would go to a museum to meet that long term relationship. Think about where you would meet that person that matches what you are looking for, then go there. Not with the intention of meeting someone, but with the intention of enjoying yourself. Women are always attracted to someone that is having fun!
If you?re looking for that long term relationship, think about interests that you would like to have in common with them and take that tack in order to meet them. Like I said, art — a museum, Cars — an auto show, computers — the internet (sometimes!) and so on. The key to an LTR is sharing interests and opinions and ?chemistry?. Worry about the first two at the beginning, the chemistry will come later!
Conversation
The art of conversation is not difficult. The party, the people at the party, common acquaintances, current events are all good topics to talk about. Keep to the positive though and try to avoid saying anything negative until you find out where their opinions lie. A good way to terminate a budding relationship is to make fun of someone?s dress just to find out it?s your interest?s best friend!
Avoid religion and politics to start with. These are minefields in the making and are a great way to spoil something before it even starts. Talking about sex right off is not necessarily a good thing either, even with that one night stand you have your eye on. True, there was a study done at one point that advised that if you walked up to a woman you wanted and said ?Hey! Wanna F@#$?? that an average of 25% of them said yes. It didn?t tell you that 75% of those that said ?No!? slapped the questioner in the face! There?s a painful lesson to be learned here…
Sense of Humor
A good sense of humor is imperative! Learn how to laugh at yourself. What I mean by this is that if you make a fool of yourself, laugh… don?t get angry about it. But be aware there is a fine line here — spilling a drink in your lap and responding ?Gawd! I?m such a klutz tonight!? and laughing about it, is great! Excuse yourself, towel down and order another drink.
Spilling a drink in your DATES lap, saying ?Gawd! I?m such a klutz tonight!? and laughing about it, is NOT the same thing! Laughing at the expense of yourself gives you a sense of humor. Laughing at the expense of others makes you a creep (to say the least)!
Body Language
There has been a lot said about this in the past and people tend to forget about it. But it is very important during ?the hunt? and not something that should be ignored! Here are a couple of tips that will help you out:
1. Face her — If you?re sitting next to her, turn in your chair. Don?t just twist your head around. This will show that you are genuinely interested and not listening because you ?have to? to get what you want. Also, this can be a good hint as to whether or not she is into you. If you face her, and she faces you, she probably finds you interesting and you?re making some headway! If she doesn?t face you and just turns her head or if she doesn?t even look, my advice would be to find another lady to pay attention to. This one is obviously not the one for you!
2. Look at her eyes — I don?t mean the ones below her shoulders, I mean the ones in her head! Now there is a trick here to doing this. Just staring into her eyes when she?s talking could be unnerving, so use your eyes and ?scan? her face. Start with the left eye, move to a spot between her eyes, then her right eye. Then watch her lips as she speaks. Then start it all over. Don?t do this too fast as she probably think you?re nuts, but slowly rotate what you are looking at will help you remain focused! Do NOT watch another girl walk by! You might as well slap her in the face…
Use these little tricks and you?ll be surprised how far you can get!
Conclusion
So decide what you want/need, hone your conversation skills, make sure your sense of humor is in gear and check your (and hers) body language and you should be able to go out and have the kind of fun you have been looking for!
With the number of resources that are out there on the web now, it?s really hard to make up your mind where to go for advice, where to go to meet women and what to do after you?ve met them. I wish this was a problem when I was younger as this would have reduced my learning curve quite a bit when it came to meeting (and scoring!) with the ladies!
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This is good post divorce advice. It would have come in more handy when I was in high school or college, cuz then maybe I would have found Ms. Right, instead of Ms Always Right, which was my ex-wife. Maybe this time it will be different…I”ll keep you posted.
Curt, Best advise I can give you is STAY AWAY FROM THESE WHORES. Bang as many as you can but never trust any of them. Greedy and selfish does not adequately describe most of the women in this world. They will take you for everything you own and in the interim make your life miserable.
Curt,
I’ll give you all the advice you need STAY AWAY FROM THESE WHORES. Bang what you can but never trust any of them. They are justing waiting to get their hands on everything you own and in the mean time make your life miiserable. LIE AND CHEAT because if you don’t they will do it to you first.
WOW, thanks, guys, why don’t you tell me what you really think? We’ll see where life goes, but I’m not convinced that they’re all whores. Some of them are though. But I may get involved again, only this time, I’m going to make sure my assets are protected as thoroughly as legally possible. I read the “divorce power games” section of this site, and some good points are on there. Why waste time trying to convince some girl to sign a pre-nup, that just raises her attention that there may be assets in play. Better to just put them somewhere that she can’t touch, but where you can still access them. Family trusts, corporations, etc….talk to a lawyer first though. Otherwise, maybe your advice holds water.
I see your point about hiding the money from these whores. They will take every penny otherwise. I know a guy who put all his extra money in a cooperation involving real estate in Florida before the bubble burst. When the inevitable divorce occurred she thought she took him to the cleaners when he in fact he walked away with property worth triple what they divided. He’s the only guy I know who didn’t get totally screwed in a so called settlement.
Finally, a success story where the good guys win. Don’t hear it very often, it’s almost always the man who gets taken to the cleaners. Obviously, this only works if you have the assets to begin with, if you’ve managed to reach this stage of life without accumulating anything, then it doesn’t matter. But that guy with the fla real estate should sell a course on how to do things right. Have some long range vision, and protect those assets. DIvorce should absolutely not be a meal ticket for a woman, or a back breaker for men. No reason to work that hard all those years just to have nothing at the end.
wow- where do I start?
I was literally a millionaire - wife left with a friend making more money. I shacked up with his wife.
Fast forward 7 years. I’ve a had a business fail, I am married again, and it make me think….
Bros - if you happen to get divorced, my condolenses - it sucks. Just keep this montra in mind. Divorce is expensive, and well worth it. You’re a dude, you’ll recover. Period.
I made a mistake, I got married again. What the hell was I thinking? I am not a relationship sustaining kind of person, I don’t care enough about ANYTHING besides me, my kids and my passions. Fuck - so here I am again, trying to gut it out. Life goes on. Hang in there gents - if your feet hit the floor in the AM, it’s a clean start and a day for you to make great.